A 36 year old patient who comes for a visit with an anxiety crisis due to a traumatic break-up with her boyfriend. She came for the first visit 15 days after having such a crisis.
After 4 years of relationship, 15 days before, she went home unexpectedly to find her boyfriend with a common girlfriend in their bed in a somewhat more than friendly situation. She was paralyzed by a state of shock in which she could not speak or move, even breathing was somehow difficult for her. The couple caught in fraganti had to take her to the hospital where she was diagnosed with an anxiety crisis for which they prescribed anxiolytics. From that day she presents tachycardia, a feeling of suffocation, a trembling that spreads all over her body, unrestrained sobbing, insomnia and marked anorexia, only tolerating rice: liquids, meat, and vegetables immediately cause her nausea and finally induce her to vomit.
With her family living in another city, after her crisis, she went back to live with her mother just 8 days before. This just made things even worst due to her mother’s negative attitude who never ceased to reproach her behaviour. "To have abandoned a very good job in order to go to live in another city, to have abandoned her family to go with a man who she did not even know well, to have spent all her savings in order to buy a house, taking out a mortgage for another 20 years, and worst of all, this was not the first time it happened, that her lovers have always been the same", and so on, every single day, until she decides to come to me for a visit.
With this initial medical picture I prescribed her Ignatia 1 Lm and evaluated her 3 days after. Because of her good response, I kept up with Ignatia 7 ch for 15 days more and I arranged with her another visit.
Then she told me her story:
She had discovered her true problem in these 15 days after her first visit to me, after taking Ignatia. She felt very bad for two days and then she had a dream: she was walking and while she walked the colour of her body was changing, just as a chameleon mimetizing. When she awoke, she discovered that such was her sentimental life, she could not be herself in her couple relationships.
She had had four loving relations and they always ended up the same way… with a big trauma, like a disaster and with her loosing everything, without knowing what to do, where to go, and worst of all, always repeating the same story.
“I am a lover chameleon”: Whenever she did not have a relationship she showed to be a person of success in every field. Professionally, she would always get positions of responsibility due to her strong character and the confidence she irradiated, but all that ended up the moment she fell in love.
The first time she fell in love she was 20 years old and it all ended up 3 years after, just as well… her first boyfriend taught her how to take cocaine, ecstasy, pills etc. In the daytime she worked and at night she became an addict and an alcoholic. She realized that she did all that because otherwise he would leave her. Nevertheless somewhere inside of her she started feeling a deep anger with this boy who forced her to do this kind of things and with herself for not being able to make herself worth. One day this boy told her everything was over, that she had changed so much, that she was no more the woman he loved, that she had become an addict and a heavy drinker! This was terrible for her, but it has happened the same ever since, even with her last relationship; he said apple and she said pear, but she ended up eating apple. She wanted to live in Madrid (Spain), but went to live to Barcelona (Spain). She was the boss in one department of a company and ended up taking care of his mother who had Alzheimer - the reason behind their travel to Barcelona.
She had decided that he would be the man of her life and hold out with everything, out of love. She spent all her savings buying a house and paying a mortgage going halves with him, but at the same time started feeling that she was giving up her life, her personality, because of love and this made her in a raging temper. She would do everything he wanted her to do, but deep inside she felt a deep anger and a feeling of frustration that grew bigger and bigger. They had discussions on a daily basis and certainly no sex life, which was the way she would punish him.
No hay comentarios:
Publicar un comentario